In Memoriam – Bobbie Schoenherr

12/20/19 – Bobbie Schoenherr, our last founding member of the church, died this morning. There will be a memorial service in the new year. To view Bobbie talking about the history of UUCV – its inception and early years, click the link below.

Her decline was quick this week after she went to the ER Sunday evening with abdominal pain.Her daughter Catherine and son Rick were with her almost constantly throughout. Many folks from the church visited.  Catherine told me how grateful she was to us all because the church meant so very much to Bobbie.  Video interview here>>

As the Solstice approaches, may we lean into the darkness and remember our loved ones, including Bobbie who has been such a steady presence in our community for more than 60 years.

In sorrow and gratitude,
Rev. Dana

Between Sundays

Good People,  

A couple of months ago, there was a robust discussion on our internal church Facebook page about cultural misappropriation.

The discussion particularly focused on Dia de los Muertos, though it is an issue that we need to consider in many contexts. On Christmas Eve our service will be based on the Latinx tradition of Las Posadas, so I want to share thoughts about cultural misappropriation.

We are in a new period of addressing race issues in our country, the most active perhaps since the Civil Rights era. People of Color are again asking us all – especially white people of European backgrounds – to be aware of the long legacy of colonizers who appropriated, stole, adopted, profited from the cultures of the peoples who were colonized, or enslaved, or wiped out.

This is not always comfortable work but it is important for us to talk about it and listen to what people from those cultures say about what it feels like when white folks from the dominant-normative-centered culture adopt practices from their cultures. It is so easy to cause deep pain if the “adopters” don’t do their work to understand and respect that culture.

I love doing a Day of Remembrance service around the end of October and beginning of November. For related and unrelated reasons, many traditions celebrate loved ones who have died at this time of year. I’ve been leading such services, including Day of the Dead services, my whole ministry. When I arrived in Ventura, I didn’t want to make any assumptions, especially as a white woman newly living in a place with a vibrant Latinx culture.

I learned that this congregation has had a tradition of doing Day of the Dead services. So in our second year together we celebrated Dia de los Muertos, and the energy came from Latinx members of the church who created the altar for our offrenda and who spoke about their relationship to the holiday.

There is nothing more mortifying than people – especially from the centered culture – who take up a tradition not their own and mangle it or take on the bright shiny bits without understanding sources. A person of color recently told me that it’s especially galling when people adopt the culture and runaway with it without taking time to understand deeply. It feels patronizing when someone starts explaining her own traditions back to her, as if they are suddenly experts. Or they have fun with the celebration in ways that actually dishonor it. And that really hurts.

It is not comfortable for me to think of myself as benefiting from the acts of colonizers, though I do. My heritage is 2nd, 3rd, 5th, and about 9th generation immigrants to North America. I have to consider this legacy. To often white, European Americans think that all the traditions that make up this nation are fair game. They are not.  

It’s impossible to draw bright, clear lines about what is and is not cultural misappropriation. We will all make mistakes – perhaps never getting it “right” all the time. We want to be a more racially diverse community, yet reaching that goal does not mean we have to be perfect about racial issues. We do have to be willing to talk about it – to make mistakes, to learn, and grow. If we approach diverse traditions thoughtfully, intentional, meaning to honor and respect them, we will do it better more often than worse. With humility, we will all learn, grow, and deepen into a fuller humanity.

That is indeed my fond hope.
Rev. Dana

Between Sundays

Last month, our community has lost three dear souls in barely more than three weeks – Dear Ones, Shirlee Morton, Marge Lorraine, and Joan Alger. Each one was a blow.

Yet I have been struck by how beautifully the whole church community cared for each of them. We were in close contact with them and their families up to their very last days – meeting in women’s groups, choir, Strong Bones; offering rides, meals, visits; sending cards, making calls; and more. Shirlee’s, Marge’s, and Joan’s children have all told me how much the church meant to their moms. We held all three of these smart, funny, active, kind women in ways that made the ends of their lives meaningful and engaged.

It gives me chills to know how tenderly we held each of them. It’s what we’re here for, and we don’t always realize how well we do it.

For the past several months a small group of people working to make some of this kind of care more concrete and manifest. They called themselves the Task Force on Helping Each Other, which pretty much sums it all up. They’ve recently unrolled five initiatives to address the needs of our community, especially folks who are older and/or live alone.

  • WARM LINE – Our Warm Line is now up and running. It’s a dedicated voicemail for people to leave a message about a concern or need (that’s not an emergency). A Pastoral Associate will return the call within 24 hours. The Pastoral Associates work with me to respond to pastoral needs of our church and offer a confidential, compassionate and listening presence. Just call the church main number and dial extension 102. Check out their page on the website here.

  • BUDDY SYSTEM – Do you live alone and want to join our Buddy System? Folks who live alone may feel safer having a “Calling Buddy” check in with them on a regular basis. If your buddy can’t reach you, they’ll have someone check in with you. We’ve already got a few buddies paired. 

  • SKILLS EXHANGE PROGRAM – The UUCV community has many skills that can be shared with others. Our Skills Exchange Program will connect folks with, say, computer skills, handy-person services, tailoring skills, house and pet sitting with people who need them. This can be a no-fee barter system with folks trading skills, or a skill exchange that members pay for. Look for the easel in Berg Hall with a poster and blank forms.

  • LIFE CRISIS FORM – We’re also providing useful forms in case of emergency. You can get a Life Crisis Form that keeps emergency info on file with the church. You can fill it out on the church website here or as a hard copy. Your information will be secure, confidential and accessible only by Rev. Dana or her designated assistant. 

  • FILE OF LIFE FORM – The File of Life is a personal medical home file for emergency first responders. It’s a card in a red plastic pocket listing emergency contacts, health issues, and insurance info. We’ve got files on hand in the church office for all who’d like one.  

Questions about any of these programs? Email to Administrator Jennifer Luce – administrator@uuventura.org.

We are the village,
Rev. Dana

Recycling Tips

Environmental Tips: Recycling Soft/Film Plastics

It’s easier than we thought! The Mendelsohn family will no longer be collecting your soft, otherwise known as film, plastics to take them to Santa Paula’s curbside recycling program. Santa Paula’s recyclables are now taken to Oxnard’s Del Norte transfer station, which does not recycle the film plastics. The bin in the church kitchen will be removed as of December 1 because every one of us can now simply drop them off on our regular shopping trips! Sprouts, WinCo, Vons, Target and Kohl’s send them on their journey to become outdoor decking, fencing and furniture products manufactured in the USA by the socially and environmentally responsible company, Trex.

Of course, reducing and reusing is always preferred to recycling, so do that first, but when you find yourself ready to recycle, know that there are many film plastics that can find a new life with Trex. These include grocery bags, bread bags, case overwrap (e.g., around toilet paper rolls), dry cleaning bags, newspaper sleeves, ice bags, wood pellet bags, produce bags, air pillows, bubble wrap, shrink wrap, salt bags, and cereal bags. Zip-top bags are acceptable only if they do not have a lining. Plastic shipping envelopes, padded or not, are acceptable but not combos of paper and plastic.

All film plastics should be 99% dry and clean. You should rinse out and dry zip-top bags, but with all others it’s more like a shake out the crumbs level of cleaning. 

Trex explained a good way to feel for the HDPE #2 and LDPE #4 types of plastic that are accepted, because they won’t always display the symbol/number, is to stretch the plastic with your finger. If it leaves a finger dimple, then it’s good.

Some items NOT acceptable are biodegradable/compostable bags, frozen entree wrappers and other plastics that are shiny, crinkly, and rip easily/straight, as well as foil-lined chip/snack/energy bar bags/wrappers, and pet food bags. Trex is counting on us to properly sort and only submit these accepted film plastics!

Other types slow down their process, cost more to burn off of the correct plastics, and jeopardize the entire film plastic recycling program of the submitting store! We will install posters (available from here: https://www.trex.com/recycling/recycling-programs/) in the church kitchen, and other places, to help you get used to this new way of caring for the Earth! Oxnard is hoping that their transfer station can also become a collection post for the Trex program; and Ventura has started promoting this rapidly growing way to divert our waste from landfills, via social media and in the press: https://www.vcstar.com/story/news/local/2019/11/10/eco-tip-update-effects-grocery-bag-law/2549735001/.

By Mark Mendelsohn and Celia Ortenberg

Please print these to post on your refrigerator!

7PEAT Update Dec, 2019

The 7th Principle Environmental Action Team (7PEAT) would like to provide some reminders, compliments and an inquiry regarding our church’s waste reduction efforts.
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First, please take the time to review this poster (open PDF) showing what CAN go into our recycling stream. Many folks have put in the effort to learn and practice these guidelines over the past couple years, so THANK YOU! Please do not put anything else into the blue recycling bins, including used paper cups, plates, and napkins, plastic cutlery, and film plastics. Those are the most commonly misplaced items that we relocate into the landfill bins each Sunday.
 
We heartily commend all church members, friends and visitors who regularly use their own mugs and bring their own tableware for lunches, dinners and receptions, rather than using disposable items that fill up our landfill bins. We encourage everyone to make this your habit! 
 
Further, in partnership with Building & Grounds, we are seeking volunteers who’d be willing to help our waste diversion divas (thank you, Kappy Paulson, Joyce Sattler and Linda Pietrzak!). Often weekly, they toil in the UUCV trash enclosure picking, stomping, sorting, and planning so that as little as possible goes to the landfill, and so that our church remains beautiful and in compliance with local laws.
 
If anyone is able to sign up to be a trash monitor alongside a B&G volunteer, spending about a half-hour on a given Monday (in advance of Tuesday trash day), please let Mark know at mmendels33@gmail.com.
 
Also, email me if you have any general waste sorting questions. Thank you again for embracing our 7th Principle!
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